Happy New Year 2010!!

Moods

Sometimes the surrounding influences the mood. Sometimes the mood influences the surrounding.
The first is when the surrounding affects you and the second is when you affect the surrounding.
The second is like a angry father spoling the mood of the family member by his shouting.
The firsr is like the last week of December when everybody seems to be on a holiday mood and the roads are empty, offices are half full and the whole atmosphere is such that even in a hot climate we feel the cool of the winter.

Yes!! Today being 30th December I am feeling Great!
Am in a  Great Mood!!
Thank God it is Decemeber!!
Happy New Year 2010 to All!!!

Can we Cry?

No! No! Tell me!
Why do we cry?
Can a Father Cry?
Can a Head of the Family Cry?
Can I Cry?
No No Tell me!!

TAG

Hey!! I lost the post as it did not get published!! Shucks.. let me type again!! Oh dear dear!!

I was tagged by dear Shalini -my new online friend. Last time I wrote about her here only but then since there is a question about "who tagged me" I will write about her there itself... and save my time in re-writing this post again. I am copying and pasting the tag rules and questions from her post.

RULE #1 People who have been tagged must write their answers on their blogs and replace any question that they dislike with a new question formulated by themselves.

RULE #2 Tag 6 people to do this quiz and those who are tagged cannot refuse. These people must state who they were tagged by and cannot tag the person whom they were tagged by continue this game by sending it to other people. Now now Shalini I am not too sure of this.. I could not find 6 people whom I knew enough to tag them... siggh....

1.If your lover betrayed you, what will your reaction be?
I will feel sad. What else can I do? I love someone, it is for eternity but I cannot make her love me I cannot do anything life has to go on. But the love remains...

2. If you can have a dream come true, what would it be?
To see the world and then settl down in a house on the beach with glass windows opening to the seaside view. Of course a man never has just one dream.. I have many....

3. Why do you blog?
Well I started to share my feelings and make new friends hopefully and so had many blogs. But now I blog to feel satisfaction of creation.. so the only blog current is my photoblog where I wish to post creative photos of what I see around me. But alas.. I am not there yet!!

4. Will you fall in love with your best friend?
Too late to ask me this question. But I think it is best because love that is based in friendship is more permanent. In my case my love turned into my best friend - my wife.

5. Which is more blessed: loving someone or being loved by someone?
To love is supreme. Anything that is supreme has pain too. What is more blessed? Who am I to judge what is more blessed. I just love.

6. How long do you intend to wait for someone you love?
Love never dies for me. But why wait for the moon? Life is short.

7. Would you ask out the person whom you like?
Sure! I would certainly like to share time with her.. but gotta be sure first.. whoa.. I do not want to get slapped!! hehe

8. What do you want to be known for when you die?
I dont want to be known for anything. I just wish to die knowing I have taken care of my loved ones and have not left them in a lurch.

9. What takes you down the fastest? Backstabbing

10. What resurrects you the fastest? Bright cool morning, hilly road, soft music, blue sky above and flowing river below, and a long drive- this combination works best!

11. What’s your fear?what do I fear for?
Fear of not being able to share my fear with someone else.....

12. What kind of person do you think the person who tagged you is?
Shalini!! My new friend!! She is cool, hep, different, cute, sweet, but most importantly INTELLIGENT with a depth in her mind.. I became her friend for this reason precisely so that I can dig into her mind to locate the treasure within.... I am lucky to find her..

13.Would you rather be single and rich or married and poor?
Too late a question for me since I am married and I am not poor (not rich either though). But hey it is not good to be poor and married.. wives do not like that!! They will eat your head.. so better to be rich and single.. Rich and single .. if you are rich you will never be single..!! got me??

14. If you fall in love with two people simultaneously who will you pick?
I can love many at the same time because love is a feeling between two persons, nd when one person in this case is different, the love too will be different to some extent. Of course the two will not allow this to happen.. so since I do not like to lose my love... I will not pick one and lose the other. I will not pick anyone at all.

15. Would you give all in a relationship?
Well all relationships demand your all.. so you gotta give.. or else you lose...

16. Would you forgive and forget someone no matter how horrible a thing he has done?
I have a good memory so cannot forget. And who am I to forgive? I do not have the power to punish anybody so my forgiveness is autmatic even if I may not like to..

17. Do you prefer being single or in a relationship?
Too late for me to reply to this question. But then even when you are single you need some relationship-- parents, siblings, friends, lover, living-in, whatever ... so there is no such thing as being pure single ... true & pure singles are mad people.... haha!!

18. Who/what inspired you to start blogging?
My dad died in an accident and I started blogging.. guess something cracked inside me!! All bloggers are mad.. I too am!

19. Why does one tag? Good question.. I too was thinking why I was tagged and should I tag. I guess people tag to make friends or acknowledge existing friendships? Or is it just some hidden desire to connect with people? Tags are for the young....not for the old I guess...

20. Tag 6 people: Now as I said I do not have that many readers whom I know well enough to tag.....still here is one online friend whom I know quite enough to tag her-- Reena, I'll try to be truthful, Monsoon Dreams, Muse, Sujoy, I-Feel-Random.

wow!! I got 6? !! Hmm.. well am relieved now that I have not let down Shalini.... :-0)
Will go to sleep now! What a relief!!!

Which is the best Love?

Hey!! I had closed this blog.. Because I thought why share what I think with the world.. like all bloggers do. As after all these pages are nothing but my private thoughts only...

But then someone recently has become my friend who is making me think again on matters by asking questions. I had started this blog in the first place.. to share my thoughts on human relationships... .. And so I post this answer to the question put forward to me by her who seems to be as inquistive into the human mind as I !! :-0)

Which love is the best among the following:-

1. Dad for his daughter
2. Dad for his son
3. Mom for her son
4. Mom for her daughter
5. Brother for his sister.
4. Brother for brother
5. Sister for sister
6. Sister for her brother.
7. Son for his mother
6. Son for his dad
7. Daughter for her mom
8. Daughter for her dad
9. Male lover for his female lover (pls excuse me I am not aware much of the same sex kind and she too did not ask me that one)
10. Female lover for male lover
11. Husband for wife
12. Wife for husband

Well hm. mighty difficult question I must say!!.

And see here I have already talked of these different loves earlier. But nevertheless it is a better question as I can see!!

So my answer:-

Let me organise my thinking as follows..

First a few assumptions:

1. we are talking of people (named groups) actually loving and not like what we see in news. that father kills dgtr and so on)
2. We will not differentiate between mom and dad in parents, or between boy and girl in lovers and between man and wife in marriage for my first answer. If you want to even distinguish further then naturally we need to concentrate only after we have arrived at the group whose love is the best and then further differentiate betweenn that. I will do that next.
Ok now...

& oh yes! 3RD AND last assumption is when we talk of love here it is pure unadulterated love.. no adulteration.. after we have our answer.. we wil add deviations and actually what happens in real life and then test our answer. ok. next

Now,
1. Parents to children is a one way love always --> downwards... ideally they never expect anything back
2. Brothers and sisters love is protective love.. for each other.. -- but there is a sense of give and take..
3. Spouses love are having some degree of relationship and expectations also & may also be mixed with physical needs.
4. lovers love is also having expectations from both sides.. and also sometimes mixed with physical senses and emotions.
5. Children's love for parents has an essence of dependence.

I think parents' love is the best love ;
And,
in that mother's love is the best love in this world..
..............Mother's love is nothing but sacrifice only .. 9 months inside her... pain all the time (amidst the pleasure to have kicks inside the tummy.. it is a lovely feeling u know?... and hmm haa, do not ask me how I know!! LOL!..) ok.. and then this mother usually is forgotten when children grow old.. and left alone, if wife does not like mom-in-law or because wife's mom cannot stay in son-in-law's house.. but still have u ever seen a single instance of moms not loving their children ?

For get the exceptions. as i said in the start.
So mom's love is the best is my answer.

But NOW let me come to the imperfect world.

In the imperfect world nothing is so black and white as u wanted ur answer to be ....Even in parents' love there may be a subconscious expectation that children will grow up and take care of them? [In India it may be so. I dont know about abroad]...who knows? I dont know.. because I never even think of living long enough after 60!!..haha!

And if u ask me since you said I have to choose one answer only, I did not say it and I chose one answer only!! Otherwise I think each LOVE HAS ITS OWN BEAUTY.

So now if you ask me.. then. I think "WHICH IS THE BEST LOVE?" is not a good question at all.

What is the better question is "who is the greatest lover?" Why? Think!

Because the same person have mutliple roles in life.. man or woman is child & brother/sister, then,lover, then husband/wife, then parents right ??
And whom does the beauty of love depend upon??
- The person who loves!! obviously!!

So it follows that the right question is "who is the best lover?"

And the answer to this is:-

He or she is the best LOVER who gives without taking, who takes nothing but love in return if at all he has to take something,
And who lets go of his or her love anytime he or she wants to go.

The best lover is one who can love without limits,
who can love till eternity,
who can love without being loved,
one who can remain in the background and never come out in the light,
one who will love till the end of the world and long after that.
That is why you find that the greatest love stories are those which have ended with sacrifice.. not with happiness. because the greatest love is sacrifice!

And anyone who can do this is the best lover in this world.. and in all his roles his love would be the best therefore.. as a parent, as a child, as a sibling, as a spouse or as anything else he in the role of in this world.. even a guru shishya, monk and his disciples, doctor and his patient.. whatever..
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I dreamt while I was sleeping,
I woke up & behold,
My dream before me standing.
Dream, dream, dream
Let me not be in sleep lost
Let me but be in dream lost.

No More Posts ON THIS BLOG.

I have stopped posting here.. From now on all my posts will be at one site only here
http://indiathroughmyphotoblog.blogspot.com/

I think that will save my time and also yours if you are reading my blogs...Moreover I have started thinking..why share my thoughts with the world? My thoughts should be mine only... let me spend more time offline.. there is so much to do before I die... LOL

But still if I do want to share my thoughts I think it better to share it on the PhotoBlog site only... for two reasons:

1. I will not be sharing much so the basic objective of the photo-blog site will not be ruined. [Note all my blogs had different objectives]

2. I can discuss relationships and confused thoughts and the rest better with associated Photos.. I mean I will try to.. because if I can do thatttt, then I can call myself a real PhotoGrapher!! One who can tell stories through the lens!!

Whom do you argue with?

There is a Bengali Saying whose English Translation is exactly casting pearls before the swine.

Whom do I argue with? On what subjects do I argue?

I argue with people whom I want to improve, and so I argue with those I love and therefore I want to improve.

I argue on subjects that can be improved (as per me),

By this very reasoning I will also argue with my bosses and my management for improvement of the organisation I work for. The day I do not do that is the day I have made up my mind not to work for it anymore-- give a chance....

So I think a person who argues with his loved ones will also argue with his bosses.. A person cannot be different in different situations if he not a fake.

Problem is therefore---> Who cares for your arguments?

None!!