Sunday, February 05, 2006

Cannot forget

Can one really forget? Time the best healer? No I do not think so.


  1. No, time may be not the best healer sometimes. I was 24, she was 19. Happened in 1995. I knew her way before we went out. We used to be friends first, for about 3 years. She went out with few of my friends and I was happy for her even tough I was dreaming of her everyday and I knew she was the love of my life. Then a miracle happened and we started to go out. I was the happiest man under the whole sky. Her parents hated me, they would not even consider me as a proper partner for their daughter. I was always something unacceptable for them. Especially her father did everything what he could to turn her against me. He always put her into situation where he tried her trust and love to him on the expense of our relationship. She loved her parents and did not want to hurt them. That's why we kept our relationship as a secret for almost 3 years. I was putting up wi th it for the longest time, then I became to be rebelious. I wanted to kiss her in the public and all the things normal people do when they are involved. We started fighting. The situation went worst and worst. Then she ran into family problems and did not have time to pay attention to our problems anymore. That did not help either. We needed to communicate, but she shut off any communication-did not have power to talk about poroblems-she was overloaded. I slipped-once, twice. What was a beautiful relationship once, was a ruin now. After 7 years of being together we broke up. I love that girl until now. She is married now and I do not want to interfere-I am happy she found happiness in her life. But it has been 4 years now and one would think that time would heal this. It did not. There is not one single day I would not think about her and there is a lot of love and at the same time a lot of hate in me. I cannot get rid of it, no matter what I do. I know that this was a girl I could spend the rest of my life with, I feel it. It hurts like crazy and there is absolutely nothing what I can do about it except live with it. So to answer your question "Is the time the best healler?"- sometimes, for most of the people maybe. But I am definitely an exception.

  2. Hi. I too said time is not the best healer sometimes. But to help you I can tell you this. What you have inside your heart is something you should not throw away. Love her forever. That will keep you the same man you were 7 years ago forever. Because a man who can love and not ever let go is the man which women should go for. If they do not want such men it is their bad luck. The world would be a better place if PEOPLE KEPT THEIR PROMISES and never let go easily.. then there would not be so many divorces and so much pain. But at the same time one cannot and should not say that one should hold on at any cost. What I am saying here is you should not change your personality. If you are a man who can love and never forget GREAT!1 be like that forever!! But do not let your old love stop you from loving again!! Look around you .. and be patient.. and be open.. there will be some day someone who will be like you and you will be happy with her. I am not saying this just for the heck of it. I myself have met at least 3 girls/ women on this net who were exactly like me and thought like me.. we enjoyed chatting and soulmates.. It is another matter that nothing more happened. But for you, if you have still not found your love be patient.. and keep looking.. she will come.. the new one!!

  3. Its true time is not a healer, I don' know who thinks that love is logical or a reasonable feature in our lives. When I met heather I fell in love with her when I sensed her presence and way of thinking and talking. Its been two years, I been trying to forget her but time only made me miserable thnking that I could spent the rest of my life loving her, and I will always love her until the day I will die. I knew it since I met her and no one has replace her place in my hearth. There's no single day of my life that I don't think about her even I tried so hard, she always came back to my mine and I know she is thinking of me too. Even though sometimes many people are sturborn and selfish. I will always love her no matter what happened....SHe WAS the only love of my life... The only woman I really care and loves so much...
    Where ever she is I wish her the best and the most sweet dreams everynight.. Despite of many people who were jealous of us... and I will never forget her no matter how much time I will need to heal from losing her.. I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU. NO matter if I am in other relationship... no one will ever made me feel the way you made me feel. And time doesn't always work to heal the pain of losing your soulmate...

  4. delete all these ridiculous comments

  5. My heart goes out to you, as I know just how it feels to have a love for someone that never dies.

    Time may never heal your wound, but time can allow you to one day allow yourself to love again.

    If you believe what God said to his children, "you" in His Word, then you may find comfort for your heart.
    When I feel the way that you feel, I read this scripture over and over again.
    "Trust in the Lord with all off your heart,and lean not unto your own understanding.
    In all ways acknowledge Him, and he will direct your path"

    I know it's hard, because we don't understand why we can't have the things that we want sometimes.

    Just remember,God is ever knowing.
    He knows every hair on your head, and he has named every star in the sky!
    Perhaps one day, you will see why.

    I stumbled upon these words below, searching for the right words to comfort your heart.

    Read this, and I pray that you find comfort from it.

    I encourage you to read more, and to sincerely ask God to deliver you from this situation.
    King David said to God in Psalm 56:8, “You number my wanderings; put my tears into Your bottle; are they not in Your book?” God was so aware of David that He even collected his tears. In the same way God is involved and aware of our pain, our joys, our failures, our accomplishments.

    When Hezekiah was stricken with sickness, he poured out his heart to God. God heard him and saw his tears. God was moved with compassion. “Return and tell Hezekiah the leader of My people, ‘Thus says the LORD, the God of David your father: “I have heard your prayer, I have seen your tears; surely I will heal you”’” (2 Kings 20:5). God saw Hezekiah’s tears. Understand that God can be closer to us when the pain is so great than at any other times in our life.

    “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit,” wrote David (Psalm 34:18, NIV). Ask and receive God’s love and encouragement, because He is very near to you. God can work with a heart that has a hole in it, because the need is so great for it to be filled.


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